Teaching children wisdom and respect around unfamiliar dogs

Many years ago, my son asked a lady, “Does the dog bite?” he voiced what every child wonders. The lady’s answer — “If it has a mouth and teeth, it can bite.” — was honest and wise. It reminds us that even the friendliest dog can react if startled, scared, or protecting its owner.

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👀 Observe Before You Approach

A calm heart sees more clearly

• Watch the dog’s body language: tail, ears, posture, and eyes
• Look for signs of comfort — loose tail, relaxed stance, soft eyes
• Avoid dogs that seem tense, bark sharply, or pull away
• Teach children to stand still and wait for the dog to come closer

Phrase for little ones:
“Look first, move slow, ask before you go.”

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🗣️ Ask the Owner First

Respect builds trust between people and pets

• Always ask, “May I pet your dog?” — never assume it’s okay
• Listen carefully to the owner’s answer and follow their directions
• If the owner says no, thank them kindly and move on
• Teach children that “no” means safety, not rejection

Family practice:
Role‑play with stuffed animals or your own dog to practice asking permission.

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🤲 Approach Slowly and Gently

Let the dog choose the pace

• Walk calmly, no running or squealing
• Offer your hand slowly, palm down, for the dog to sniff
• Pet along the back or shoulder — never the face or tail
• Stop if the dog backs away or stiffens

Teaching moment:
Explain that dogs use smell to “say hello,” and we show kindness by waiting.

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💬 What to Say When You’re Unsure

Turning curiosity into caution

If your child asks, “Does the dog bite?” — affirm their instinct for safety.
You can reply:

“That’s a smart question. Let’s ask if we can pet the dog first.”

This teaches discernment — not fear, but awareness.

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